About the Duggars (Briefly)

This isn't a blog where I ever talk about other people and their fertility decisions. I do not agree with a lot of what I know about the Duggars, and they likely wouldn't agree with a lot of things about my life either. But I do want to talk briefly about her most recent pregnancy.

The EXACT day Michelle Duggar publicly announced she was pregnant with their 20th child, was the EXACT day that my husband and I found out we had lost our 5th pregnancy. It was a raw day for me and I was very angry at some of the rhetoric used in her pregnancy announcement. The implication being that God was giving them babies, and they would take as many as God would give them. Of course, in my fragile emotional state, I wanted to throat punch her through the television. The arrogance. The entitlement. That somehow God had chosen her to be special. God chooses her to have 20 babies, and chooses me to grieve the loss of 4 of mine.

But in our own grief and suffering, the Duggars and their life went back to being the least of my worries or concerns. Until a month later, when the world learned she had miscarried. And in the weeks that have passed since then, I am shocked and appalled at the disgusting things that have been said about her.

NO ONE deserves to lose a baby. NO ONE deserves the grief, suffering, and heartache that comes with the loss of a pregnancy. NO ONE should ever be judged for how they handle their grief after such a loss. People may not agree with the lifestyle the Duggars live, but for crying out loud - let her grieve in peace. Every woman deserves at least that much in a time like this.